Relationships & Communication: Habits to explore
Building reciprocal connection through attentive presence, care, boundaries and discernment. What happens when you try to connect, express a need or receive support? What would a caring response look like for both you and the other person?
Habit #3 - Make peace with yourself
From self-judgement, to self-compassion, to inner unity.
SELF-JUDGEMENT
SELF-COMPASSION
INNER UNITY
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice self-criticism, I will respond with the same patience, truth and kindness to myself as I would offer someone I love.”
From neglect & disconnection, to presence & care, to deep connection.
Habit #13 - Tend to your relationships
NEGLECT & DISCONNECTION
PRESENCE & CARE
DEEP CONNECTION
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I feel disconnected, I will ask someone how they are and give them my undivided attention (listening without interrupting or trying to fix them or responding with my opinion).”
Habit #14 - Surround yourself with support
From isolation, to relational discernment, to belonging.
ISOLATION
RELATIONAL DISCERNMENT
BELONGING
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I withdraw, I will reach out to one trustworthy person.” (Share something real, ask for support or practise receiving their care.)"
Habit #15 - See the world as your family
From division & separation, to compassion, to unity consciousness.
DIVISION & SEPARATION
COMPASSION
UNITY CONSCIOUSNESS
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice an ‘us and them’ response, I will intentionally recognise the other person's humanity.”
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Habit #11 - Cultivate forgiveness
From resentment & holding on to hurts, to release, to emotional freedom.
RESENTMENT
RELEASE
EMOTIONAL FREEDOM
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice myself rehearsing a hurt and feeling resentful, I will practise releasing the demand to keep rehearsing that same hurt, so I can experience emotional freedom.”
Habit #10 - Practice gratitude
From lack of appreciation, to abundance, to gratitude.
LACK OF APPRECIATION
ABUNDANCE
GRATITUDE
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I feel a sense of lack, I will express specific gratitude to someone for who they are or what they have contributed to me.”
Habit #20 - Listen to your intuition
From external dependence/doubt, to inner guidance, to inner knowing.
EXTERNAL DEPENDENCE or DOUBT
INNER GUIDANCE
INNER KNOWING
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I am confused, before seeking another person's answer, I will pause, become still and listen to my own inner response (discerning it alongside reason, values and reality)”
Habit #12 - Spread loving kindness
From indifference, to kindness, to unconditional love.
INDIFFERENCE
KINDNESS
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice myself overlooking someone’s needs, I will offer one small act of kindness without expecting anything in return.”
Choose one practice from the habits above that resonates with you.
Download the workbook below to access your 21-day practice plan.
Write down the ‘love enacted habit’ in your plan and each day, notice the opportunities you have to practice. Briefly record what you learn.
After 21 days, reflect on what is changing in your life, and what you want to continue developing. It might be more of the same habit, or you might want to go back to your eight areas of valour and choose another habit. Flourishing is a life-long journey of ongoing participation. We are not striving to reach a finish line!
