21 Love Enacted Practices
Small habits.
Big shifts.
A more human world.
Repeated practice and the development of capacity
Might repeated loving practice help us become increasingly capable of responding with love?
Is it possible to develop the capacity to love?
From Shadow to Capacity to a Flourishing State
Awareness creates the opportunity for a more loving choice.
Habit #1 - Focus on Solutions
From blaming & complaining, to problem solving, to creative empowerment
BLAME / VICTIM
PROBLEM SOLVING
CREATIVE EMPOWERMENT
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice myself blaming, I will identify one thing within my influence and take one constructive action.”
Habit #2 - Look for the lesson and the gift
From resistance & resentment, to adopting a learning mindset (curiosity), to wisdom.
RESISTANCE / RESENTMENT
LEARNING MINDSET / CURIOSITY
WISDOM
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice resistance to something or someone, I will ask, "What can I learn from this, or what is the gift in this?".
Habit #3 - Make peace with yourself
From self-judgement, to self-compassion, to inner unity.
SELF-JUDGEMENT
SELF-COMPASSION
INNER UNITY
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice self-criticism, I will respond with the same patience, truth and kindness to myself as I would offer someone I love.”
Habit #4 - Tune in to your body’s wisdom
From disconnection, to body awareness, to embodied intelligence
DISCONNECTION
BODY AWARENESS
EMBODIED INTELLIGENCE
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice discomfort or tension, I will pause and ask, ‘What does my body need?’"
“The promotion of love within society has tremendous, underutilised potential to enhance human flourishing.”
VanderWeele & Lee (2025)
Habit #5 - Nourish your body
From neglect or overconsumption, to conscious nutrition, to embodied vitality.
NEGLECT or OVERCONSUMPTION
CONSCIOUS NUTRITION
EMBODIED VITALITY
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “Before I eat or drink, I will pause and remember that my body is worthy of care and rather than using food, substances or deprivation to ignore what my body needs, I will ask myself, ‘Is this nourishing for my body?’"
Habit #6 - Energise your body
From lethargy & stagnation, to activation to aliveness.
LETHARGY or STAGNATION
ACTIVATION
ALIVENESS
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice lethargy and stagnation, I will move my body in a way that expresses care; walk, stretch, dance, strengthen or play, for at least a few minutes.”
Habit #7 - Don’t believe everything you think
From judgemental or fearful thoughts, to discernment, to mental freedom.
JUDGEMENTAL or FEARFUL THOUGHTS
DISCERNMENT
MENTAL FREEDOM
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When a judgmental or fearful thought arises, I will pause and ask, ‘Is this thought true and helpful?’"
Habit #8 - Go beyond the mind & let go
From rumination, to presence & surrender, to inner stillness.
RUMINATION
PRESENCE & SURRENDER
INNER STILLNESS
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I catch myself ruminating, I will interrupt the pattern by returning my attention to the present person, moment or task.”
By connecting a loving practice with the capacity you want to develop and the flourishing state you hope to move towards, you begin to bridge the gap between knowing and becoming.
This guided journey helps you explore your wellbeing, choose a habit that matters to you, and turn it into a small, achievable daily action.
The invitation is simple: make your practice specific enough to begin, meaningful enough to motivate, and reflective enough to learn from.
Habit #9 - Incline your mind towards joy
From a negativity bias, to positive focus, to joyful perception.
NEGATIVITY BIAS
POSITIVE FOCUS
JOYFUL PERCEPTION
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I catch myself thinking negatively, I will deliberately notice and name something good, beautiful, life-giving or loving that I might otherwise have overlooked.”
Habit #10 - Practice gratitude
From lack of appreciation, to abundance, to gratitude.
LACK OF APPRECIATION
ABUNDANCE
GRATITUDE
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I feel a sense of lack, I will express specific gratitude to someone for who they are or what they have contributed to me.”
Habit #11 - Cultivate forgiveness
From resentment & holding on to hurts, to release, to emotional freedom.
RESENTMENT
RELEASE
EMOTIONAL FREEDOM
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice myself rehearsing a hurt and feeling resentful, I will practise releasing the demand to keep rehearsing that same hurt, so I can experience emotional freedom.”
Habit #12 - Spread loving kindness
From indifference, to kindness, to unconditional love.
INDIFFERENCE
KINDNESS
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice myself overlooking someone’s needs, I will offer one small act of kindness without expecting anything in return.”
“An intense pure adequate love of long duration that extends to all persons—a perfect love of neighbor—is bound to contribute substantially to greater flourishing within the world”.
VanderWeele & Lee (2025)
From neglect & disconnection, to presence & care, to deep connection.
Habit #13 - Tend to your relationships
NEGLECT & DISCONNECTION
PRESENCE & CARE
DEEP CONNECTION
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I feel disconnected, I will ask someone how they are and give them my undivided attention (listening without interrupting or trying to fix them or responding with my opinion).”
Habit #14 - Surround yourself with support
From isolation, to relational discernment, to belonging.
ISOLATION
RELATIONAL DISCERNMENT
BELONGING
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I withdraw, I will reach out to one trustworthy person.” (Share something real, ask for support or practise receiving their care.)
Habit #15 - See the world as your family
From division & separation, to compassion, to unity consciousness.
DIVISION & SEPARATION
COMPASSION
UNITY CONSCIOUSNESS
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice an ‘us and them’ response, I will intentionally recognise the other person's humanity.”
Habit #16 - Find your passion
From apathy/lack of direction, to engagement, to purposeful Living.
APATHY/LACK OF DIRECTION
ENGAGEMENT
PURPOSEFUL LIVING
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I feel I have no direction, I will spend some time doing something that makes me feel alive and allows something meaningful in me to be expressed or contributed.”
Habit #17 - Follow the inspiration of the moment
From control & rigidity, to flow, to creative spontaneity.
CONTROL/RIGIDITY
FLOW
CREATIVE SPONTANEITY
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When plans change, I will pause, listen and practise choosing a life-giving response rather than trying to force my way.”
Habit #18 - Contribute to something greater than yourself
From self-centredness, to service to meaning.
SELF-CENTREDNESS
SERVICE
MEANING
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice myself focusing only on my own interests, I will use my time, attention, abilities or resources to make one contribution to someone else’s wellbeing or a shared purpose.”
Habit #19 - Invite connection with a higher power
From spiritual disconnection, to faith / openness to Divine Connection.
SPIRITUAL DISCONNECTION
FAITH / OPENNESS
DIVINE CONNECTION
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I feel disconnected from Spirit, I will create a period of intentional connection through prayer, contemplation or sacred silence.”
Habit #20 - Listen to your intuition
From external dependence/doubt, to inner guidance, to inner knowing.
EXTERNAL DEPENDENCE or DOUBT
INNER GUIDANCE
INNER KNOWING
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I am confused, before seeking another person's answer, I will pause, become still and listen to my own inner response (discerning it alongside reason, values and reality)”
From fear/control, to trust, to surrender / flow with life.
Habit #21 - Trust life’s unfolding
FEAR / CONTROL
TRUST
SURRENDER / FLOW WITH LIFE
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I cannot control an outcome, I will release my demand to determine the outcome and identify and take the next loving action that is mine to take.”
© The Love in Practice Framework is copyright to Skye Sinclair.[The 21 Happiness Habits are from the Happy for no reason course. Skye Sinclair is a certified Happy for no reason trainer. ]
