Emotional: Habits to explore
Manage stress and emotions. Feel. Be present.
What emotion or habitual response keeps appearing (shadow), and what capacity might help you respond differently? How could these habits help? Greater emotional balance, self-compassion, resilience and freedom from old hurts.
Select ONE of the habits above, scroll down to access the shadow, capacity and flourishing state, as well as the Love Enacted Practice for that habit. The shadow is a familiar pattern that can hold you back. The capacity is the ability you will practice developing. The flourishing state describes the way of being you hope to grow towards.
Habit #3 - Make peace with yourself
From self-judgement, to self-compassion, to inner unity.
SELF-JUDGEMENT
SELF-COMPASSION
INNER UNITY
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice self-criticism, I will respond with the same patience, truth and kindness to myself as I would offer someone I love.”
Habit #8 - Go beyond the mind & let go
From rumination, to presence & surrender, to inner stillness.
RUMINATION
PRESENCE & SURRENDER
INNER STILLNESS
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I catch myself ruminating, I will interrupt the pattern by returning my attention to the present person, moment or task.”
Habit #10 - Practice gratitude
From lack of appreciation, to abundance, to gratitude.
LACK OF APPRECIATION
ABUNDANCE
GRATITUDE
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I feel a sense of lack, I will express specific gratitude to someone for who they are or what they have contributed to me.”
Habit #11 - Cultivate forgiveness
From resentment & holding on to hurts, to release, to emotional freedom.
RESENTMENT
RELEASE
EMOTIONAL FREEDOM
The Love Enacted Practice: A simple, repeatable action - “When I notice myself rehearsing a hurt and feeling resentful, I will practise releasing the demand to keep rehearsing that same hurt, so I can experience emotional freedom.”
Choose one practice from the habits above that resonates with you.
Download the workbook below to access your 21-day practice plan.
Write down the ‘love enacted habit’ in your plan and each day, notice the opportunities you have to practice. Briefly record what you learn.
After 21 days, reflect on what is changing in your life, and what you want to continue developing. It might be more of the same habit, or you might want to go back to your Eight dimensions and choose another habit. Flourishing is a life-long journey of ongoing participation. We are not striving to reach a finish line!